When someone asks you what love is, your most probable answer will be some thing in connection with romance. But is that the only meaning of love? No it is not. It is present everywhere, even between you and your pet dog. There are people who claim that they love each other in a relationship even without understanding the true meaning of this strong feeling.
In any relationship, between couples, between parents and children, between friends etc, this emotion is not understood in its fullness. Only when it is unconditional, does it become truly loving each other. I have a friend of mine who said, her real friends were books because they give her no regrets and no complaints. This is how true friendship and love needs to be within ourselves. Most of the times we expect our dear ones to be how we want to be and try to fit them into what we have in mind. That is not exactly unconditional, is it?
When people start dating, they have certain predefined picture in mind with which they approach their partner. Initially everything is fine, but as time passes they tend to find fault with the other person and this is why there are so many divorcees among us. You need to be able to understand and like your loved one, even if he does something that you feel is no t right. Do parents follow this? The honest answer is no, because again these relationships are governed by conditions and rules.
There is a common misconception that lust and this beautiful feeling is one. This is why marriage initially seems to be a bed of roses but as time passes becomes such a burden. Yes, sex is very important in a romantic relationship as it brings the partners very intimate. But lust is not everything. This is why relationships turn out to be boring once the initial excitement wears out.
Possessiveness is another problem that most people have when they are together. Most parents with girl children get so over possessive and they tend to restrict them a lot. A similar case can be witnessed among couples too. Every human being needs their space and freedom. You might say that it is only because I am concerned. It is very good to be concerned but not to the point where the other person starts getting choked with your concern.
Love is a feeling that you will know about only if you experience it. If you want some help in your relationship, the first thing you need to do is wipe out every unnecessary coaching you have got on this subject from your society, or people around you, even what I have discussed so far and think about that person you care about. It might be the girl in your class, or your sibling, or your parents. It is in such a stage that you will really understand the feeling within yourself. Once you realize this you become selfless and know how to demonstrate that feeling to your loved one in an unselfish manner and you realize who you are and what you become when you have them around you.